Yapluka!
During our existence, we adopt habits and behaviors that cause us pain and stress. Our lives begin to improve only when we realize the absurdity of these attitudes, and take steps to abandon them. Here is a list of fifteen tips that will help you improve your life and make you happier:
1 / Abandon your need to always be right
Some of us can not stand the thought of being wrong, and sometimes they endanger relationships with people who are important to them. Still, it's never worth it. When you feel that you want to prove that you are right, ask yourself: "Is it more important that I am right, or that I am nice? "
2 / Abandon your need for control
Drop your desire to control all situations, things and people around you. Give them the opportunity to be as they really are and you will feel much better.
3 / Stop the blame
Abandon your need to blame others for what you do not have or how you feel, or do not feel. Stop giving up your powers and take responsibility for your life.
4 / Abandon Negativity
Stop pitying yourself and thinking only of failure. Believe in yourself, and do not believe everything your mind blows at you, especially if it's negative and demotivating thoughts.
5 / Abandon the limits you assign yourself
Stop giving yourself limits on what you can do, and can not do. From now on, do not let these limits impose themselves on you and deploy your wings to fly as high as you can.
6 / Stop complaining
Stop complaining about situations, things, people. Nobody or nothing can make you unhappy unless you allow it. It's not the situation that triggers these feelings in you, but rather your way of looking at it.
7 / Abandon the criticism
Stop criticizing others, things or events that are different from you constantly. People are all unique, yet they are similar. We all want happiness, to love and to be loved. Criticism is completely useless.
8 / Abandon the need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be someone you are not, just because you want to make yourself loved. Things do not work that way. On the contrary, when you drop the mask and accept to be yourself, you will find that others will naturally be attracted to you.
9 / Stop all resistance to change
Change is good and the only thing that will allow you to evolve, to improve your life and that of those around you. Accept the auspicious change, do not resist it.
10 / Abandon the labels
Stop labeling things, people, or events that you do not understand or find different, and try to slowly open your mind. Your mind only works if it is open to new things.
11 / Abandon your fears
Fear is an illusion, it does not exist, it's something you created.
12 / Stop excuses
Most of the time, excuses limit us, and they block us on a situation, preventing us from developing, to improve our lives and those of others. In 99,9% of cases, these excuses are not even real.
13 / Abandon the past
Abandoning the past is not easy, because often it looks so much better than the present, and the future is so scary. But the present is all you have, and you will never have anything else. Stop deluding yourself and be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey, not a destination.
14 / Let go
From the moment you detach things (which does not mean that you stop loving them, love and attachment having nothing to do with each other), you become peaceful, tolerant and serene. You can then understand things without having to force yourself.
15 / Stop living according to the expectations of others
Far too many people are complying with what their parents, friends, teachers, government ... expect from them. They do not listen to their inner voice. They are so anxious to please others that they lose control over their lives. You have only one life, it's here and now. You must live your life, and in particular, make sure that the opinion of others does not deter you from the path you have traced.
Comment from Marc Theriault of 18 / 08 / 2013:
There is one important thing missing from this list that, in my humble opinion, is starting off on the wrong foot: 16. Let go of the need to be happy! We repeat it and we repeat it, to the right and to the left, up and down, HAPPINESS IS NOT A DESTINATION, BUT A STATE OF MIND. Do you want to be happy? Don't even think about it, you won't get there, or at least not for very long. Why? It's simple, because you are a human being full of limits which prevent you from being happy now, and which will prevent you from being so for the rest of your earthly life, especially with age. , these limits are gaining in importance. Do you want to be "MORE" happy? Ah, there you start talking. That's good, the recipe is much simpler: Love yourself and accept yourself as you are, with your flaws, your quirks, your imperfections ...
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